sweet jesus please help me! I am going insania! School and nursery are back tomorrow, which is definitely good and necessary. Routine is king – i know. bring it on. The 3 amigos are seriously brothered out now. My issue is – I wish someone could unlock the secret for me of why my 3 male children fight…..like constantly. I simply don’t know how to tackle them. i’ve tried many approaches, thrown money at it even in the form of treats – but as you will know this is not a solution (when desperate one will try almost anything!), I am sick of my own loud voice, talking talking getting louder talkshouting shouting….. and they seem to be deaf! or dumb. or stupid. I have come to the conclusion that the male species are quite stupid much of the time. whatever the age. I see my girlfriends with their daughters, or daughters and sons – and it doesn’t seem as rough and tumble as the 3 boy combo. Maybe i see this through rose tinted glasses – I shall never know, what i do know is, 1 mother and 3 boys = not enough time, hands, patience to go around. It’s a new year, I don’t make resolutions as such, but I do have a desire to have a fresh beginning, start as i mean to go on, be more patient, not shout, do more with them, but already, just 7 days in – i’m losing. I have already locked myself in the loo away from them, already screamed my head off this morning, already threatened that we won’t go out and do our planned activities today if the scrapping continues, and already had a quick count up of how many hours I have to endure before its bed time….. and then I get the guilt trip. I am their mother. The one person they rely on for absolutely everything in their lives. The one who is setting the example to them of how to ‘be’. Its my last day with them before school goes back – we should be happy and enjoying our time together. If only they didn’t wind each other up, tease each other, gang up together and leave one out (2 is company 3 is a crowd….how true), if only they could share their toys and games, play nicely together, be kind to each other…….clean the guinea pigs out, make their beds, tidy their mess up, put their coats and shoes away, not squabble in the car, not hit one another, not put their hands on the tv screen, not have cushion fights and throw them on the floor, if only they would willingly clean their teeth, brush their hair, wear matching clothes, know that its winter and believe me when i say shorts are really not appropriate, actually just hear what i say – the first time or even the second, and believe me! and not tell fibs! am i asking too much??!! so. I have this day to get through. Off out we go, as too much time indoors makes it worse. And i suppose one day when i’m even older, and greyer, I will look back on these days and wish them back again, small boys and at home safe in their beds every night with me. People tell me so. and i can see it. but I wish i knew how to cope better and deal with the here and now…………………..
Oh dear! I hate to tell you this but it only gets worse as they get older! There is a bit of a lull when you think you might of cracked this parent thing. At around aged 10 or 12 when they can be lovely to take out for a family meal at the local beefeater and they sit nicely , getting excited about chocolate fudge cake for desert. You may even feel a bit smug. BUT big but it goes a bit downhill from there. Around the age of 14or 15 The alcohol issue is a biggy and a bit of a worry . How do you find out if the house party they are attending is supervised. very un cool parent!, and suddenly as a parent apparently you do not understand or know anything about anything! Well that’s if you can even get them to converse with you at all! The expense is epic (especially if you speak to my husband on the subject) mobile phones , jack wills may feature quite highly. Think I better stop there so not to depress you. On a positive note I look back on every stage with rosé tinted glasses and wouldn’t have it any other way. I am sure you are doing a grand job! children still need to see that their parents are only human!!!!
Mother of grown up ( allegedly) boys
Hmmmmm. Thanks for that! X
Hmmmmm. Thanks for that! X